I was recently given a copy of a book by Rachel Hollis, Girl Wash Your Face. I am not typically one to read “self-help” books but every woman I know had read the book. It was receiving raving reviews everywhere!
I reluctantly started to read the book. After about 20 minutes, I can honestly say I was hooked. I binge read the entire book in about a day and a half. An impressive feat seeing as I have two small children who are always there!
For those of you who don’t know, the book is based on lies women have been known to tell themselves. There were a few in the book that really resonated with me and my life.
I have always been a working mom. I was not blessed with the option to stay with my son when he was born six years ago. I took eight weeks off and then headed back to full time employment. The work/mom balance has always been a struggle for me. I have had to miss many field trips and doctor’s appointments over the years. I often find myself overcompensating for the hours I am working. I have been known to over schedule us for activities during the time I do have with my kids. Lots of scheduled activates = stress & lots of car time. That was not doing anyone any good. I was not enjoying my time with my kids. I had to learn that being at home playing Legos was better for my relationship with my son than any other sport or activity if that meant I was stressed and not really there.
Some people want to stay home and have babies. Some people want to have the big successful career. Growing up everyone makes these wonderful plans for their lives. Then what really happens is life gets in the way of those plans. For many of us, we set unrealistic expiration dates for our plans or goals in life. Your goals do not have expiration dates. Focusing on the absence of something isn’t helping you to move forward. I think with social media, we see what other people are doing or accomplishing and that can have a negative effect on some people. You start to compare your life to your best from high school. You both have the same education and background yet she is taking lavish family vacations and has a tremendous career. Why aren’t I there? Rachel says in the book, “God has perfect timing. If you aren’t of similar faith, think of it as everything happening exactly when it’s supposed to.” One of my biggest struggles in life is knowing and accepting that God always has a plan. Patience isn’t my best characteristic.
After reading the book, I did a Google search about Rachel Hollis. I had never heard of her before and wanted to know more about her background. I found the following video and watch it a couple times of week when I am feeling frustrated with life. She has a new book coming out in March and I can’t wait to read that one…..very weird coming from me!
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